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E is for Engagement

6/5/2014

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Right up there with one of the things a woman will remember for the rest of her life is how her husband proposed. Though Jim swears it happens differently, I assure you it had to be the least romantic proposal on the face of the Earth and beyond. We were just talking--I don’t remember about what--when he started doing pushups. Then he said, “I think we
should get married.” 

“Are you asking me?” I said, somewhat perplexed. 
“Yeah.” 
“Huh.” 
“What?”
“Nothing, just...not exactly how I thought proposals went.”
I should have cut him some slack, he was only nineteen to my seventeen at the time. Eventually--yes, I said eventually--I said yes and we got married right before my nineteenth birthday. We went to the courthouse with only my sister and her boyfriend in attendance as witnesses. A lot of people didn’t think that we should get married because we were so young. Those same people said it would never last. 
First, it will be our ten year wedding anniversary in November.
Second, they were right. We were too young, and half our problems through the years have been because we’ve changed so much in that ten years. So, lesson learned, one I can hopefully pass on to my daughters. If they, however, want to get married at eighteen, what ground do I have to stand on? (My husband hates it when I say that, but it’s true
nonetheless.)

As a young girl, I didn’t get the big, romantic proposal I dreamt up and believe it or not, that bothered me for some years. However, my husband and I have been married than plenty of friends who received big, flowery declarations of love. Everyone has their story and this is only part of ours. It’s been such a blessing to share this journey with the love of my life. 


6 Comments
Shelly
6/5/2014 01:17:29 am

It's better than what I got. My husband originally proposed with a baggie twist tie(that I still have) and I thought it was so sweet. Then about a week later he said that did not count because it was not a real ring, that he knew I did not want. It then took him another 4 months to give me a ring and then it was official. 13 years later I don't even wear my rings not even the wedding band.

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Celeste Jones link
6/5/2014 03:27:23 am

Very sweet. I think those big showy proposal (like on a jumbo-tron) are sort of icky. And you're right it's not how you get engaged it's how you do in the marriage. Congrats to you both.

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Katherine Deane link
6/5/2014 04:29:51 am

so sweet! congratulations :)

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Rhonda Ralston Griffith
6/5/2014 05:23:25 am

Mine engagement didn't go the way i always thought it would either. I pissed my man off real bad seconds before he popped the question. He throw the ring across the room and said "I just wanted to purpose!" I picked it up, put it on my finger, smiled, and said "yes" We've been together 21 years in November. What really counts in life is the little dash in between:) that's where the real story lies:)
GREAT post:) thanks for sharing it and congrats on ten years:))

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CaraBristol link
6/5/2014 07:26:57 am

The ground you have to stand on is the same one that all parents have to stand on: you have learned from your experience so you KNOW. Just because you would have eaten cake instead of vegetables when you were five doesn't mean you will allow your five year old to eat cake in place of veggies. You can certainly tell your teenager that you KNOW that early marriage is not the way to go because even though it worked out, it was hard and you don't recommend it.

It's the same for parents who didn't do well in school, or used drugs, or did anything they now don't want their kids to do.

BTW - my marriage proposal consisted of my husband handing me a ring box and saying, "Here, now maybe this will get you off my back." We've been married 21 years.

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Tiffany link
6/5/2014 11:03:10 am

I was the one who popped the question to him.

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